Friday, January 21, 2011


So, yeah, uhhh, Mikey doesn't sleep in a crib yet.
I still have the co-sleeper next to the bed (not that he ever slept in that either) to give us more room. I intended to have him in a crib before our family vacation last December, but yeah, that didn't happen. I don't even have a crib set up for him.
I do enjoy having him with us, but really -- he needs to be in in own space. I get out of bed to pee and half the time he screams at me! I am really worried that he is going to start following me in there in the middle of the night and fall on the stairs or something....

When Paige was born, the whole Co-Sleeping vs Ferberizing was very popular. I read all about both while I was pregnant, and I set up her nursery and her crib as if she would actually sleep in there. Well, Paige was my first c-section, and for various reasons, she ended up sleeping on my chest for her first three months. Not my initial plan, but I was good with it. Then she fell off the bed! So I tried to Ferberize her... I couldn't take it. She was crying, I was crying. I just put the bed on the floor. Girl never slept in her crib. Not once.

I didn't really have much of a plan when DJ was born. Not saying I didn't stress it, I did, I just had no real plan -- crib was still in the nursery, Paige still with me. Well, it ended up that DJ couldn't really fall asleep if I was holding him. If I swaddled him and placed him in his bassinet he would fall asleep instantly. Wow. Moved him to the crib when he out grew the bassinet. DJ loooooved his crib! I used to joke that he'd be in it until he was 10 ~ And bonus! Paige would sleep in the room with him!
Then eventually he climbed out. Bye Bye crib.

Pregnant with Kelly. This time I want the Arms Reach co-sleeper instead of a bassinet. So awesome! Nursed her, put her in it -- she is right there. We even moved home to the city and she was fine with it all. Put the crib up in our room and moved her to it when she tried to climb out of the co-sleeper. She was great. Got one of those dome nets to put over it because she was getting eaten alive by mosquitoes -- totally works too BTW -- and she stayed in it longer because she couldn't climb out. We even moved her to her own room! My "Destructo Baby" did eventually end up pulling the whole dome down and breaking it, but she was ready for a Big Girl bed by then anyway.

Alright. So here we are. Mikey never slept IN the co-sleeper... I know, but he didn't like it. Also, unless he falls asleep in the car, I hold him while he naps. I know...
(I know!)
I am also aware of the fact that I brought this on myself, but I seriously have no idea how I am going to get him into the crib now! So yep, he is sleeping with us still. I am open to any and all suggestions, but I will not let him cry it out.


Cyndi Hendrickson said...

Yikes! I hope there are more people reading this blog than me. I always made the girls sleep by themselves and never in the bed with us. That probably makes it easier.

Every once in a while Chloe has trouble at naptime and cries. I won't let her cry too long or too hard so I have to go into the room several times to sooth her, rub her back, hum, brush her face with the tips of my fingers, give her pacifier back to her. Eventually she'll be tired enough and will stay laying down long enough to doze off. (Note: I do let her cry a little because sometimes she'll give up after just a minute or two and go to sleep by herself. Just not the screaming desperate kind of crying.)

By the way, (preface by saying I think you're an AWESOME mom) I have to say I'm shocked to hear about the babies in your bed! Our maid rolled on top of her baby and smothered him. And one of our neighbors recently lost a nephew when the mom brought the baby to bed for nursing and fell asleep. The dad didn't know the baby was in the bed, rolled on top of him, and smothered him. So sad.

carol anne said...

That is just so heartbreaking. I have never known anyone that this has happened to. I have seen the recommendations lately trending away from co-sleeping, but I know more moms that have done the family bed thing than not. Maybe it's a California thing -- or just a trend 10 or so years ago, I don't know. It is one of the reasons I love my Arms Reach, I worried less than I did with Paige.

Both Paige and Mikey would wake up or just scream their heads off if I put them down when they were newborn, so I kinda just rolled with it... Luckily, the other two were easier in that respect.

Chloe is so lucky to have you! *melt*

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