I used to believe that for siblings to get along well they needed to be close in age. I don't know even know how I came up with this --
My brother and I are 3 years apart and there were plenty of times that we didn't get along, but most of the time we did.
My mom didn't get along with her brother and they were 13 months apart.
My dad is one of eight siblings. Four boys, four girls. My aunt just recently told me that they each grew up thinking of themselves as an 'only child'.
Explains a lot.
Paige and DJ are 26 months apart. Paige and I both just doted on DJ and he adored her. Gave her his first smile, first laugh.
DJ was so little and had these full body belly laughs -- it was so freakin' cute!
Paige is now almost 14 and wants to be an only child
(at least some of the time)
Kelly is six years younger than DJ.
It has been great for DJ. When Paige started feeling a bit too old to play with him all the time, it was just about the time that Kelly was old enough to play.
And I have to say it again, DJ and Kelly are inseparable.
He is her favorite person. She waits for him to get home from school.
They talk and play all the time.
All The Time.
Paige turned 12 a couple of weeks after Mikey was born. Every baby should come with a 12 year old sister. He LOVES her.
At that time I had a Newborn, a Preschooler, an
Elementary student and one in Middle School.
I know "all siblings fight", but mine are not allowed to. I wouldn't allow someone else to say mean things to one of my kids, so I don't let them say mean things to each other.
No, they don't always get along, but I do insist that they will show each other kindness --
(Paige is the one having the most trouble with this lately)
Some of the time they do need a reminder (DJ) and I have had to ban them from speaking to each other (usually in the car)
But for the most part, for now they all get along.
And who knows how Mikey will fit in to the dynamics of it all?
In just a few short years Paige will be going to college.
I'll have one in College, one in High School, one in Middle School and one in Elementary.
My goal is for them to all to like each other
and get along --
and for one of them to take DJ with them when they move out.